Josh and Kelly share some of the important lessons they’ve learned in their marriage thus far. They came up with ten tips that have helped them to have a happy marriage.
Talking Points:
- Tip #1: Learn how to communicate. Communication isn’t just about talking. It’s also about learning when your spouse might need some space to think or just needs you to sit and keep them company.
- Tip #2: Go on dates. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun together. Continue doing the things you enjoyed while you were dating.
- Tip #3: Have your spouse’s back. Remember, you’re a team so don’t tear each other down or try to make your spouse look stupid in front of others. Be respectful.
- Tip #4: Learn to say you’re sorry. There is no quicker path to peace than admitting when you’re wrong and able to apologize for it.
- Tip #5: Forgiveness. Don’t hold your spouse’s mistakes over their head. Let it go. Forget about it.
- Tip #6: Find things you enjoy doing together or learn something new together.
- Tip #7: Show affection. Find out what your spouse’s love language is and speak that language to them as much as you can.
- Tip #8: Don’t try to change your spouse. You can’t make someone else change so don’t even try. Be honest if there are things that bother you about your spouse but recognize that they will have to be willing to change. It’s up to them.
- Tip #9: Encourage each other. Be your spouse’s biggest fan!
- Tip #10: Be a servant. Don’t be selfish. Put your spouse’s needs even above your own.
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Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
This topic is adapted from the Blimey Cow YouTube channel.
Josh and Kelly share some of the important lessons they’ve learned in their marriage thus far. They came up with ten tips that have helped them to have a happy marriage.
Video Highlights:
- Tip #1: Learn how to communicate. Communication isn’t just about talking. It’s also about learning when your spouse might need some space to think or just needs you to sit and keep them company.
- Tip #2: Go on dates. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun together. Continue doing the things you enjoyed while you were dating.
- Tip #3: Have your spouse’s back. Remember, you’re a team so don’t tear each other down or try to make your spouse look stupid in front of others. Be respectful.
- Tip #4: Learn to say you’re sorry. There is no quicker path to peace than admitting when you’re wrong and able to apologize for it.
- Tip #5: Forgiveness. Don’t hold your spouse’s mistakes over their head. Let it go. Forget about it.
- Tip #6: Find things you enjoy doing together or learn something new together.
- Tip #7: Show affection. Find out what your spouse’s love language is and speak that language to them as much as you can.
- Tip #8: Don’t try to change your spouse. You can’t make someone else change so don’t even try. Be honest if there are things that bother you about your spouse but recognize that they will have to be willing to change. It’s up to them.
- Tip #9: Encourage each other. Be your spouse’s biggest fan!
- Tip #10: Be a servant. Don’t be selfish. Put your spouse’s needs even above your own.
Discussion Questions:
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- What is your favorite tip and why? What’s your least favorite tip and why?
- Of all the tips offered, which one could make the biggest impact on your marriage right now? Explain.
- Which tips are you incorporating pretty well in your marriage? Explain.
- Based on your experience, what other tips would you add to the list?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
