Just like personality types, we all tend toward a particular attachment type.

Talking Points:

  • Secure – Low avoidance and low anxiety. This person tends to create strong bonds with others and doesn’t fear failure.
  • Avoidant – High avoidance and low anxiety. This person doesn’t create a lot of close relationships and prefers to work alone. 
  • Anxious – Low avoidance and high anxiety. This person wants to be accepted by others and doesn’t like to go solo on anything.
  • Disordered – High avoidance and high anxiety. This person tends to switch between anxious and avoidant.
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What do you guess is your attachment type? Explain. How has that affected you as a boss or co-worker?
  3. What kind of environment did you grow up in and how did you relate to your parental figures? How has that shaped the person you are today?
  4. Without having to ask, what are some things you can look out for to determine someone’s attachment type?
  5. Think about a person you have conflict with at work. How does your attachment type affect your interactions with that person? How can you adjust your approach considering your type and theirs?
  6. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?