You may have ended your marriage with your ex, but for the sake of the kids, you have to find a way to work together.

Talking Points:

  • Tip #1: Remember that divorce didn’t end your family but it did reorganize it.
  • Tip #2: Don’t put your kids in the middle of your mess.
  • Tip #3: Find productive ways to communicate with your ex.
  • Tip #4: Be ready to compromise.
  • Tip #5: Remember how hard it is for your kids to be shuttled back and forth.
  • Tip #6: You can’t control what happens in the other home.
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Describe your relationship with your ex. What has been the most challenging so far?
  3. Why is self-control so important in dealing with your ex? What grade would you give yourself on it?
  4. Have you or your ex been guilty of putting your kids in the middle of your conflicts? Explain.
  5. How has this dynamic affected your kids up to this point? Where do you need to compromise more with your ex?
  6. How can you improve in your communication with your ex?
  7. What are some things you hope can be consistent between homes? What are some productive things you can do to encourage that?
  8. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?