Pornography is a public health crisis much like drug abuse or smoking. Left unchecked, it will destroy your marriage and potentially your life.
Talking Points:
- The first way porn destroys a marriage is that porn makes sex a one person thing. It becomes all about how to gratify yourself and not at all about thinking how your spouse should be a part of that gratification. Your spouse is just a tool you use to gratify yourself.
- The second reason is that porn breaks marital intimacy. Sex is meant to be the most intimate thing you share with someone. After all, you are literally sharing all of yourself with someone! Sex should be a two person thing where two people gratify one another. Porn turns sex into a selfish act rather than a bonding act.
- The last reason is that porn damages your spouse’s self worth. In the back of their mind, they’re thinking about how they don’t measure up to the porn star. It’s also very unsettling to think that a spouse isn’t thinking about them during sex but some other fantasy they’ve seen in porn.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- How do you see pornography being marketed in our culture?
- How have you viewed the issue of pornography up to this point? What informed this view?
- What is your experience with porn? What effects has that exposure had in your life?
- If you or your spouse have struggled with porn in the past, how has the affected your relationship up to now?
- Of the three reasons mentioned in the video, which one resonates most with you? Explain.
- In your own words, why is porn damaging to a marriage? What will/can you do to protect your marriage from being destroyed by porn?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
