Breakups are hard, but advance preparation can go a long way in minimizing the damage.
Talking Points:
- Make sure you really want to break up. Then figure out what you’re going to say. Write it down so it’s clear to you.
- Plan a specific time for the conversation so it doesn’t go on for hours.
- Make plans to be somewhere after the conversation so you have an “out”.
- Be brave, honest and kind in the conversation. And, don’t make plans to talk again.
- Make the “stuff” exchange at this conversation so there isn’t an excuse to see each other again.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share breakup story you know of. Did it go well or was it a disaster? Explain.
- List some of the reasons breakups are hard.
- Why is it important to go into a breakup conversation with a plan? What usually happens if you start a conversation without knowing where you’re going?
- What are some things you should not say in breakup conversation?
- How can you be honest yet kind when breaking off a relationship?
- Why is it important to not leave a door open to a future with that person? What is likely to happen if you do?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
