If you've had an affair, it's not too late to change course and save your marriage. Incorporate these four steps to help you think clearly about the direction you should go.
Talking Points:
- Own up. Be honest with yourself and what really brought you to do what you did.
- Seek counsel. Talk to a trusted friend, counselor or church leader who can help you begin the process of fixing your marriage.
- Have a talk. Own up to your mistakes and be clear that you want to earn the trust you’ve lost.
- Be humble and don’t make excuses for your bad choices and be ready to do whatever your spouse needs from you.
- Work hard to earn trust. Every word and action needs to show truthfulness.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Identify some of the boundaries you crossed with the other person that led to the affair? Why didn’t you stop it from moving forward?
- What does it look like to own your mistakes? Why is this an important part to the healing process for you and your spouse?
- Who have you been honest with regarding the affair? Has talking been helpful? Explain.
- Why is it important for you to break off the other relationship? What are some of the consequences if you don’t?
- What can you start doing today to show your spouse that you want to save your marriage?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
