Selfishness is at the root of marital disfunction. Discover the areas where you need to improve.
Talking Points:
- How selfish are you with your finances? If your hobbies dominate the family budget, you are likely inhibiting your spouse from pursuing their interests.
- How selfish are you with preferences? If you always take the vacation you want or eat at your preferred restaurant, you are probably selfish and need to acknowledge your spouse’s opinions.
- How selfish are you with your emotions? If your mood dictates the temperature in the room you are likely emotionally selfish and need to realize that your spouse has emotions, too.
- How selfish are you with your time? If you’re always off doing whatever you want whenever you want with no regard for your spouse’s needs, you are being selfish.
- How selfish are you with chores? If you never offer to do anything around the house, or do it begrudgingly when asked, you’re being selfish expecting your spouse to carry the load.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share the number you gave yourself in each category. Explain your answers.
- How close are your numbers to those your spouse gave you? If the numbers were drastically off, ask your spouse to explain their perspective more.
- Think about the conflicts you have with your spouse. How is selfishness at the root of those disagreements?
- For each category, come up with a practical step for how you will improve moving forward.
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?