Co-dependency is the excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner or even our kids.

Talking Points:

  • Control vs. Empowerment. Are you over-involved in your kid’s social life and do you tend to do everything for them?
  • Skewed Priorities vs. Boundaries. Do you prioritize your kid’s demands over your own needs, responsibilities or relationships?
  • Fear vs. Strategic Confidence. Do you avoid disciplining for fear of rejection from your kids? Are you worried about being accepted by your kids?
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Define codependency in your own words. How have you seen codependency play out in your life or in the life of a friend/coworker?
  3. How did you rate yourself on Control vs. Empowerment? Explain. How can being enmeshed with your kids cause problems for you and your kid?
  4. How did you rate yourself on Priorities vs. Boundaries? Explain. Why do parents tend to give in to their kid’s every whim? How can that be damaging to kids?
  5. How did you rate yourself on Fear vs. Strategic Confidence? Explain. What is hard about discipline for you as a parent?
  6. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?