Fathering the Attitude of Your Kids
Some dads father with only actions in mind. But that strategy sucks.
Talking Points:
- Father the attitude, not just the actions.
- Affirm attitude adjustments, not just acts of obedience.
- Father with the end in mind.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- How did your dad father your actions? Give an example. Did he ever father your attitudes? Describe the difference.
- When is the last time you affirmed your kid? How did you do it? Were you affirming an attitude or an action?
- What is your end goal for fathering? Give yourself a grade on how you’re doing so far.
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
Fathering When You Can’t Fire Your Kids
Some dads father like they're running a business. But that strategy sucks.
Talking Points:
- You can’t fire your kid. They’re yours so stay focused!
- You’ll have to be strategic for the long haul. Don’t be reactive but proactive as a parent.
- Father with the end in mind. Set goals for what you want for your kids and lead them towards those things.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Who’s the best boss you’ve ever had? Was he a good dad? Explain.
- When was the last time you wanted to fire your kid? What did you end up doing instead?
- Talk about the four stages of parenting. Which stage are you in with each of your kids at home? Which stage was your weakest? Which stage was your strongest?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
Fathering Through the Gray Areas
When your kids disobey, you discipline. But what about when it’s a gray area?
Talking Points:
- Learn to name the root issue when it comes to gray areas.
- Draw the line as parents first.
- Draw the line with your teen and be clear about it.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- How did your parents discipline you? What kinds of things did you get away with? How did that affect you as a kid?
- Share a time when your kid did something that was in a gray area. Did you discipline? Did you address it?
- What happens when you let things slide time after time with your kids? Have you noticed the effect at home? At school?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
