Narcissism isn’t just a personality type that shows up in advice columns; it’s actually a set of traits classified and studied by psychologists.

Talking Points:

  • Narcissism is an inflated, grandiose self-image. To varying degrees, narcissists feel that they are more important than other people.
  • “Grandiose” narcissism is a personality trait, characterized by extroversion, dominance and attention-seeking.
  • “Vulnerable” narcissists are often quiet and easily threatened, with a strong sense of entitlement.
  • Narcissistic personality disorder is narcissism taken to the extreme, and it affects 1- 2% of adult Americans. Traits include a grandiose view of oneself, problems with empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a need for admiration or attention.
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. How can you spot a narcissist? Make a list of actions or traits.
  3. Consider current culture. Do you think people tend more towards grandiose or vulnerable narcissism? Defend your answer.
  4. Why is narcissism toxic to relationships? How have you experienced this?
  5. Describe unhealthy parenting behaviors that can contribute to each type of narcissistic tendencies?
  6. Have you ever witnessed a narcissist take steps to change? If so, what triggered action?
  7. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?