Series Overview:
We used to think that IQ was the only measure of success. But in recent years we’ve started hearing about EQ – and it turns out it might be even more important.
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Talking Points:
- EQ measures your emotional and relational health. It’s the ability to know yourself and to empathize and understand others
- A self aware person is brave enough to articulate their faults and strengths.
- A self aware person is humble and teachable when someone points out a weakness. They show a willingness to learn from their mistakes.
- A self aware person won’t play the victim but will take ownership of their personal growth.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions? What jumped out at you?
- Explain EQ in your own words. Identify someone in your life who has a high EQ. How do you know?
- What grade would you give yourself on your ability to articulate your faults and strengths? Why did you give yourself that grade?
- Why do you think some people struggle to be honest about their faults and strengths? How can you grow in this area?
- How do you typically respond when someone points out a weakness of yours? Why do you think most people react with defensiveness?
- How can someone point out your weakness in a way that you can receive it? What suggestion would you give them?
- What does it look like to take ownership of your personal growth? What does it look like to play the victim? Give an example.
- What’s your action step based on today’s topic?
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Talking Points:
- Emotional health is not just about understanding your emotions but also knowing how to express those emotions in a productive way.
- A lack of emotional control means you lash out and say things you regret, you blame others for your failings, and your volatile mood pushes people away.
- A healthy expression of emotions means you can identify the “what” and “why” to what your feeling, you pause and reflect on what you might need to do, you seek advice from others and then formulate a productive plan of action.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions? What jumped out at you?
- On a scale from 1-10, how emotionally controlled are you? What number would people close to you give you?
- What are the things that tend to get you the most upset and why?
- Review the three things that describe a loss of emotional control. Which do you struggle with most?
- Why is understanding your emotions only half the battle? What are the challenges to knowing the right way to express them?
- What are some of the consequences you’ve faced when you have lost control of your emotions?
- Review the 4 steps to healthy expression of emotions. Which one do you need to key in on most? How can these steps help you to avoid making similar mistakes in the future?
- What’s your action step based on today’s topic?
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Talking Points:
- A relationally healthy person is authentic because they know who they are and they don’t pretend to be something they’re not.
- A relationally healthy person has empathy for others and can see things from another point of view.
- A relationally healthy person bravely steps into conflict and speaks the truth in love.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions? What jumped out at you?
- Who is the most toxic person you know? What makes them toxic?
- Why do people pretend to be something they’re not? Make a list.
- “Every single human being is imperfect. When you’re healthy, it starts with being comfortable in your own skin.” Agree or disagree? Explain.
- Describe empathy in your own words. What grade would you give yourself in this area? How can you improve?
- On a scale of 1-10, how comfortable are you with stepping into conflict? Do you do it more out of love or anger?
- What’s your action step based on today’s topic?
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Talking Points:
- Marriage: An emotionally healthy spouse can express their needs clearly and chooses to put the needs of their spouse above their own.
- Parenting: An emotionally healthy parent will loving affirm their kids but they’ll also implement boundaries to teach and prepare them for future independence.
- Workplace: An emotionally healthy worker will treat everyone with dignity and respect and will work to unify, not divide.
- Relationships: An emotionally healthy friend desires to walk through life with someone authentically and is willing to celebrate the highs and comfort in the lows of life.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions? What jumped out at you?
- Describe what you think are the strengths and weaknesses in your marriage right now. How can direct communication help your relationship? How can you start serving your spouse in new ways?
- Describe your strengths and weaknesses as a parent. How consistent are you in discipline and setting boundaries? Do you agree that parents who only affirm, and never hold kids accountable, are heading for trouble? Explain. How are you preparing your kids for future independence?
- What do you think your co-workers say about you? What do you want them to say about you? How can you become more of a unifier in your place of employment?
- What are the traits you value most in a friend? How can you implement those in your own life?
- What’s your action step based on today’s topic?
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